Get well soon!

When you know the truth but fabricate lies. When you know it hurts but you say it nice.
When you overlook the facts and promote myth,
and you say it loudly for your own niche.
When you see someone lying in pool of blood
but you find it an opportunity to shoot and let it flood.
When she seems nothing to you beyond sum of her body parts
When you pretend close to God but Ill treat his creations.
when you meet someone out of work
and forget for ever
When someone needs your help and you say 'never'.
Whenen you proudly boast of growth and progress
Without realizing who paid and what it cost
Then I must say you need to see
someone who can heal you thee.
@saba rizvi.

Marriages

When marriages are on track then everything seems to be so heavenly. All kind of romantic melodies become so meaningful and all divine quotes like " Marriages are made in heaven ", she is lucky to have her marriage arranged at such an early age " makes you feel that you and your beloved has come straight from the heaven for this blessed ceremony. Parents look at you with so much of love and care as you have accomplished a big deal after getting approval from grooms family. Suddenly everything changes, everyone become so fond of you, your brother and sister whom you were always at fight tries to behave gracefully with you which seriously looks so so artificial. Your choices becomes everyone's priority. The love you longed for is suddenly overflows from every corner. Forget about others you yourself feel as if you are the nicest woman on this earth. You start behaving ao nicely with everyone and your "wo" becomes the holy man of this earth whose every dictation becomes your priority. You start walking, talking and dressing like him. You lose your identity and become someone else for a moment. And that's what is the beginning of an end.
       Marriages are never ideal and never is your partner  and you too but then without giving you your time to get used to this new identity  and adjust to it suddenly everything again changes but this time not for the good.What is really shocking is the attitude your parents start adopting . Once your rukhsati is done you suddenly becomes so strange, so outsider to them. They doesn't want you to come to their home frequently, they dont want you to talk to them very frequently and you simply can't stay there for long. What is worst is that you can't go to them anyday without information. Khuda na khasta if your husband doesn't accompany you then your staying there will be like a torture.
 Now coming to the new family which simply can't be as same as yours and that's first thing which takes time to seep in but even before that you have to pretend, act or behave in such way to be in good books of not only your husband but every one related to him. Here your choice becomes mute and your decision, aspirations, dream, wish are in waiting mode and they might never come to the scene. You become so robotic that your feelings are no where. You have to do what you are told to do.So in the end who is the one who has gone through so much after this event?
  I am not against marriages but I am against those boundations which transforms you into someone you never wanted and hated. This institution needs to get revived and certain points should be added into it to make it a bliss and not a repentance for a lifetime.
 Happy married life:)

Comments

  1. I feel as some one has opened my heart and penned it ...each and every lines defines most of the women's plight( if not all) that she goes through... What an irony !!! Very well written ..straight and blatantly true!

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  2. So well expressed dear... Most of the girls in our culture goes through same overdeal...
    All that differs is how u were bought up, ur dreams, strength that defines later how u will react to it, how u will respond to it and how u will further shape urself or world arrnd u after the overdeal... ��

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  4. But my concern is why at the first place we should go through so much to make it happen as in that process of we lose lot of us.

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